phone conversation

hmm recently i've been worried abt being overly concerned abt a friend of mine (yes i know that sounds wrong). my view is that i don't even want to risk having a girl i'm not attracted to getting positive vibes for me. experienced the inverse twice before and the feeling sucks.

so i was telling myself, the next time she calls i'm gonna ignore it. and msg her the next morn saying i was asleep the previous night. then the phone rang. and i picked it up. i have to admit, i didn't expect a teary, broken voice.

apparently, she had just broken up with her b/f. for the next 3 hrs, it was a long journey of emphathising and consoling. it was especially hard given i could barely make out what the hell she was trying to say, given her distraught state and voice. and it isn't exactly polite to say 'say again' or 'can u repeat that' or anything that has that meaning too many times.

so i ended up just feeling the emotion of the words and reacting accordingly with short affirmations to assure her i was listening. or paraphrasing the last few words of her sentences and repeating it occasionally. no choice la. but i think it was more than sufficient to placate her.

sometimes i wonder what guys do on the phone when they're getting bored during an excessively long conversation. esp tempting if it's basically a monologue.

relationships.. it has to be 2-way. if it's just about one party putting in effort and the other just accepting, or even the typical guy-chase-gal-gal-get-touched-and-get-together thingy, i doubt it'll work out in the long term. oh wells. let's just let nature take its course.