the knee problems

the past 2 months has been a good sports period for me, having acquired a fixed weekly badminton grp and 2 fixed-timing weekly sessions for tennis. and that's not including the sessions w linky/ginny or the impromptu games w random pple.

however despite religiously wearing my kneeguards which slow down the acceleration considerably, the knee cartilage does wear out after repeated impacts on the ground. and to top it off, i weigh a fair bit hence the situation exacerbates.

so i've decided to continue on with my intermediate golf lessons (after getting my PC last mth) which will force me to stop the tennis/tanning sessions on sat morn. which will allow me to socialise with john and new pple and reduce one weekly source of knee-destroying.

knee replacement surgery is out of consideration for now cos it's not THAT bad yet and the success rate's not total, furthermore i would have to walk in crutches for a mth and no sports for at least 3 mths. that, for me, would define a life with no leisure and fun.

maybe i'll go for knee cartilage injection surgery at TTSH. 6mths of relief and the prevention of long-term / old-age injuries. a few hundred bucks a pop but haha i think i can well afford it. i spend like.. 50bucks a mth on glucosamine/chondroitin/msm tablets anyways.

(most) guys are evil

today i was having supper with the bestie. and heard that his most desired affair hadn't been gg v well, even tho it was initially very positive physically and emotionally wise. apparently the girl (who has a bf) suddenly got a conscience, and the very manipulative attempts at coercing and convincing hasn't been gg v well.

amused cos it was his first evident failure in yrs (now he's attempting to impress upon the girl that he values her just as a close friend but yet acting subtly that he can't help but do extra), i nonetheless spoke up in admiration of the girl. dun have to worry abt hurting his feelings since he knows i always say what i feel haha.

so the girl's told my friend that she really thinks he's the ideal lover but she still wants to talk it over and work it out with her bf who's always busy with work and doesn't really satisfy her emotional needs. and wants to remain just close friends with him for the moment and nothing more .

she replies and responds readily to any non-emotional sms or conversation starter and not at all to emotional ones. (e.g of emotional sms: hey missing u; can't help but think of you; really wish i was there with you now, "insert common phrase that all guys use")

i think all girls should be like her. and it's not, btw. i have sufficient guy friends who tell me stories and it seems girls open themselves up to possible emotional cheating by actually responding or even gg out casually and allowing the evil guys a chance to subtly play upon the doubts they have abt their current r/s and how they would supposedly "give you the love and attention you really deserve".

guys are basically manipulative, i feel. the only guys who aren't are those who simply doesn't know how to or doesn't dare to. for me it's the strong personal code of conduct (the new guy friends always laugh at this even when i honestly feel that way, cos i talk a fair bit of rubbish) and a deep belief that karma happens back at you so i dun recall doing ath against my moral values.

therefore i dun believe in other guys wanting to know a girl (out of nowhere) to be simply friends. no doubt he wants more than just being a friend, esp if he looks decent enough to alr have a respectable amt of friends of both sexes.

yes, i know those cases do occur. but it's either because the guy just wants someone to make use of, spend time with or it could be that the girl is of different race or simply aesthetically undesirable.

the last part is especially true for ALL guys but no self-respecting one would readily admit to that. i lie about it too of course. haha! dun tell me u never suspected guys were like that.

and yes, i know that some of those guys actually turn out to be decent friends who no longer try to be touchy or send long smses or ask you about your day as much - or essentially dun hit on you anymore and are generally.. friends.

but that's just cos they gave up as they din seem to be getting anywhere with you or is busy with some other girl (it's his hectic work schedule, he tells you when you ask why he seems more distant and unavailable) currently.

so basically to prevent emotional cheating on the part of the girl: give those guys a chance to be friends but not respond to their emotional smses or offers to individual meetups (unless they're proven harmless) nor share too much of the melancholy part of your r/s - all these gives them evident openings to leverage from unless you're one seasoned veteran yourself.

instead gush (not too much of course) abt how happy u are with the bf - afterall if he truly wants to be ur friend he must want to hear how happy you are and want to know more. that's really the tell-tale sign. guys who want more than friendship show visible discomfort and awkwardness at the mere mention of the girls' other half.

and it may seem like i'm blowing my own trumpet but i think i'm one of the few i know who simply enjoys the process of a genuine, trusting, sharing conversation and nice meal - nothing more than that. maybe i just wasn't cut out to be more than that.

maybe it's cos i'm happily attached now or that i'm just simple-minded haha.

i'm back!

hello i'm back from a long hiatus! yess i know i should update more frequently but the opportunity cost really got alot higher after hols started. afterall, would you rather blog than go out w the gf/friends, tennis/badminton or simply basking in the world of Xbox360? ha!

hmm ok shall update on the entire prev week. since i'm here anyways and don't know when i'll be back again. i've this this habit of writing down the events (and the pple they entail) in my monthly schedule so i remember quite well heh.

sunday: went to meet 2 tampines pple in my journey to the east. first jud to pass her a spare cam memory card b4 she flew the next day, then glad for dinner at cityhall and some decent jazz performance (free! she said) at the esplanade. it was really a horrible mrt day - lakeside to tampines, tampines to cityhall, cityhall to tampines and then back to lakeside.

monday: hmm i played DragonAge:Origins (best fantasy RPG ever! i always tell my friends) till like 7am then went to sleep, waking up a good 10hrs later to rush to holl vill to meet angel (haaaa late again!). as a sidenote, i really quite like thai express - the tomyam soup, the grilled seafood platter and the soft-shelled crab.

tuesday: k-box with the guys (like finally, a grp outing w them). as usual i was happily singing oldies (eng and chinese) that nearly everyone din hear b4. and oh.. christmas songs! then tennis w new pple (intro-ed by alan) - they din go for proper coaching but been playing for ard 5 yrs, and were really quite a decent challenge. new, skilled tennis/badminton kakis are always welcome :)

wed: date with the beloved gf. checked out the art galleries at mt sophia whilst trying out my new Lumix-ZS3. my 1st compact point-and-shoot cam! then celebrated her sublime uni results at tao's (fine-dining for the typical student). then watched couples retreat at the cathay.

loved the movie alot! even tho the gf din appear to be amused by certain crude words and gestures as well as the occasional sexual / pop culture reference. thought it was the funniest show i watched this entire 2009 (quite on par w the hangover). yes yes gf i know u think the proposal is the best.

thurs: badminton with bert, gary and junli. it was a really good 2hrs doubles game, albeit it wasn't really as tiring as usual. likely cos bert was really quite outstanding at covering the backcourt and forcing errors alot. as usual i got him to 'fang shui' - so the opponents'd think it's a good, even match and continue joining next time. v hard to find pple ard my mid-level standard la! same for tennis also haha.

fri: shopping at queensway w linky. one of the few (ok, two) guys who can stand my shopping.went an hr earlier to check out the models and prices so it's not too unbearable for him. got my apac badminton shoes (w power cushioning) which supposedly has the same functions as the yonex (overpriced!) ones but was 3 times cheaper at 55bucks.

OH btw i did a taste test on the laksa and chicken curry of the seemingly 2 identical stalls selling both in queensway. and it was obvious that each one specialised in one dish. for best laksa: the newer stall with the orange tables. for best chicken curry: the one with brown tables.

sat (finishing!): tennis with rick, jerry, linky and 2 other working adults. great game, those new kakis offered. then the gf for storm warriors 2 at cwp.

worst movie of the century! haaaaaa. ok almost. esp considering i left my brain outside the theatre and tried not to have too high an expectation given the decent prequel. i din like the weak story development and the convenient loopholes in it. the subpar CGI at times was annoying too.

ok i'm tired! i'm sure you must be too :)