the r/s conundrum

i've a close friend who states that he gets sick of things fast, save a certain sport. be it games, friends(to a certain extent), and in particular relationships. he simply gets bored of the aspects of a r/s (gg out, sweet nothings, commitments, etc) after a while, and never really ever misses his other half v terribly.

so i replied that he hasn't really found The One yet, and he's been settling for girls who appear to like him, which i suspect most adult males do as well to a certain extent. then i forgot whether he asked me the same thing in reply, but it set me wondering - am i the same?

one of the rare few times (i think there was only 2) i really terribly missed someone and thought perpetually about the person fondly to the point of silly obsession was during the first 2 years of hall (or even 3 i think). it does feel silly to have someone so always in your mind but it did distract me from other more constructive pursuits.

and i'm essentially a 'self' person as in I like to do my own stuff and meet friends on a whim so i don't totally enjoy being in a r/s for its own sake. but it's essential for the endpoint in marriage tho, which i'm aiming for in the next few years.

the physical aspect of a r/s which appeals to most guys isn't really that essential to me too. i can v well do without it. it's really the chemistry and communication that matters to me, and that, as well as common hobbies is the key to a lasting r/s for me. i need a confidant, activity partner and physical gratification within the GF package. and which is independent and not too clingy.

hard to find right. i know. it's like the ultimate fantasy.